Over the past few years I have noticed that there are many women who choose to be so called side pieces, mistresses, and the like. I prefer to look at them as pockets.
"Pockets are what a man or woman has chosen to add onto the pants they currently wear to have a more exciting life outside of their relationship."
Why do women choose to degrade themselves into becoming another persons pocket?
The saying has been that there isn't anyone out there for them, or that it wasn't suppose to happen.
No one should put themselves in a place where they are sharing themselves with not just the person that they are sleeping with but also sharing themselves with whom the person they are sleeping with are lying with aside from them.
Love yourself more. Love yourself enough to know that you deserve to be with someone who is going to love you and only you. Thereare many people out here with diseases and stories to tell on how they received them. Life is about more than sex. If you are not happy in your relationship or marriage then respect yourself and the person you are with enough to leave and not go out here sowing extra pockets on your pants to be happy.
Every situation is different and I am not out here to judge anyone by far.
As an adolescent this is something that occurs but, as an adult I think that placing yourself in a situation to be the other woman is disrespect to yourself.
Why cook for someone that is going home to someone else?
Why have sleepless nights thinking about that person and their significant other?
Should you place yourself in a position to share?
Place your feelings on the line to turn around and later realize that the situation was going nowhere to begin with?
Who wants to be a secret? Unable to do some of the things you would normally do in a relationship for fear of getting caught?
Do we think about the wife of the person we are lying with?
Think about it this way, at some point in time you will become involved in a committed relationship and will want that person to be faithful, or maybe get married and would want unconditional love from your spouse.
Now think back to when you were playing the pocket. How would you feel.
It seems that life has become about self even when we are involved in relationships/marriages, we only are thinking about how we feel and what we want. What about the person who we've said I love you to?
Women are emotional creatures and no matter how much you may feel that your feelings won't get involved or that this person will eventually want to be with you and leave the person they are with, you end up disappointed.
Why wait for someone who is taken? What does that say about how much security you have for yourself.
When you become a pocket I think that is from insecurity. Be secure enough to know that you are worth more. It doesn't matter how charming they are, what excuses they have for wanting to step out, you should be woman or man enough to say no. Some of these people have families and playing the field puts not only themselves in the position to do damage but the "pocket" is helping to destroy the family too.
It sounds cliché' but wait for love instead of loving one who is already being loved by someone else.
Playing the role of a pocket may seem fun and exciting to some but, when it all comes down it ends in heartbreak, violence (for some), threatening calls and putting yourselves in positions that are worth being in.
I am not married but I see many who aremarried or who are in relationships who think that it is okay to play the field because there are women who are willing to play a "pocket".
It is not your concern or place to fill in the position of another woman who is rightfully in the position.
Why play house and play family when you can earn your own through patience?
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